Relationship is not just about what you have. It’s about what you do to make it work. All relationships go through phases, where there will be good and bad times. The best relationships are not just about the good times you share, they’re also about the obstacles you go through together. Great relationships don’t happen by luck. Loving someone isn’t just about saying it every day, it’s showing it every day in every way and by what you do to make it work. Remember, it takes two people to make a relationship work. You both have to actively participate in the relationship and keep it positive to make it the healthiest, happiest, strongest and best that it can be.
So then, how do we make relationships work?
Commitment. You both need to have a desire to be together and commit to each other.
Respect. You need to respect each other’s decisions, and feelings. If you don’t respect each other the relationship will never work.
Communicate to your partner. Let your partner know what you are thinking. Don’t wait for your partner to try to guess what is going on with you. Good communication solves that problem.
Trust your partner. If you don’t, you shouldn’t be in the relationship. You have to trust each other for your relationship to work.
Never cheat. Cheating has ruined many relationships.
Keep the spark alive. Keep the chemistry alive to avoid being bored in each other’s company. Do an activity that you both enjoy.
Compliment each other. Sincerely and often.
Spend time together. Make your relationship a priority and make time for each other.
Give space. Allow each other just enough room to breathe, but not enough room to leave. Give yourselves the opportunity to miss one another. Give your partner the space they need, when they need it.
Be honest with each other. Being honest about your feelings will help you work through the problem. If there’s something you don’t like about them, tell them how you feel.
Don’t keep secrets from your partner. Being in a relationship means that you’re a team! Include them in what you did and where you went as much as possible. Keep secrets with your partner, not from your partner.
Tell your loved one how much he means to you. You should tell your loved one that you love him every single day. Tell your partner how lucky you feel to have them in your life. Make them feel special.
Learn to say you’re sorry. Learn to apologize if you’ve done something wrong. If you want to be in a long-lasting relationship, then you absolutely have to learn how to say sorry.
Support and encourage each other. You must support each other no matter what. Never ever leave your partner unsupported.
Talk about your future together. This shows that you are both in the relationship for the long term.
Forgive each other as soon as possible. Don’t wait a day, a week or a month.
I have so much to say, yet I don’t know where to start. Everything keeps going downhill rather than up. It’s already difficult as it is. Realizing how much I try not to cry, the tears still runs down. No matter how many times I tell myself that I’ll be fine, I end up becoming not okay. No matter how much I try to occupy my mind, everything still crash down upon me. I don’t have the will to chase you because you deserve someone better than me. You’ll realize that I’m not worth your time and just stop putting in efforts for me. I don’t have the right to complain because I know I deserved this. There’s no one to blame, but myself.
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There are no words to describe the way this makes me feel. Thank you, thank you, thank you! You have no idea how deeply you have touched me. I wish I could say the same things back but I have no idea who you are. It was lovely to come back online and see this wonderful message. This is probably one of the best things people have said to me in a long time. Thank you so much! I wish that I could give you a hug through the internet! I love you :*
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Thank you so much, I’m glad you think so, it means the world to me! I hope you have/had a great day as well! :)
I just wanted to say I really missed you guys! I’ll try to be on more now since it’s summer. If you have any questions, my askbox is just one click away! Thanks to everyone who’s been following me this whole time even though I haven’t been on as much, and thank you to those who are just following me now! I hope you’re all doing alright, and I hope I can talk to you soon.
Hopefully I could blog much this vacation, again. I miss this, you know. I really do love you guys!
i. Never lose hope and don’t give up. Whatever you do, never give up on what you love in life most. All the hard work, struggles will balance its way out into your success in life.
ii. Remember to take chances and take risks, it might hurt you but life needs that contrast to really make the good times shine through. It will be hard. It will be painful. It will be confusing. But you have what it takes to be victorious.
iii. Don’t ever stop fighting. Continue to ride out the waves of sadness, problems, trials, depression and anxiety. I know its going to be okay. I know it isn’t now, but it will. Don’t ever give up on fighting for what you believe is right.
iv. Don’t regret anything. Try to feel as much as you can, and do as much as you can, and never regret anything.
v. Stop thinking that you’ll never be good enough, because you’re so much more than that. Don’t let it make you feel like you deserve less. Don’t let it be an excuse nor a reason.
vi. Don’t let your fear, anxiety, own thoughts, hold you back from anything. Do fun things always, but stay grounded.
vii. Do not dwell on the past or your mistakes, learn from them and keep it moving. Accept the things you cannot change and change the things you can. There’s always more to learn. Always. Never forget that.
viii. You don’t always have to be the center of attention. Sometimes its ok to let someone else have all the spotlight.
ix. Don’t let those around you dictate your decisions. Don’t take shit from anyone. If someone doesn’t want to be around you, don’t worry, someone will want to. It’s also okay to cut people out of your life. Quit worrying over the opinions of others.
x. Don’t pretend to be okay. Cry and scream and sulk in bed for days. Do what you have to in order to be okay. Think of how to make things better. Even if it may seem impossible.
xi. And when things get too much remember you aren’t alone in your suffering.
I can’t promise you a perfect relationship. There will be fights and arguments and days when we both absolutely hate each other, there will be nights where I won’t talk to you and you won’t talk to me. But I can promise you no matter what difficulties we will face I will hold your hand and together we can take to next step. And I promise you that I will spend the rest of my life devoted to making you happy and finding joy together even if silence is how we choose to spend our time together; I am completely satisfied with you by my side. I love you baby and I know I always will. From the depths of my heart, and I love you to an extent that I never thought it’s possible. I love you so much! I will never give up trying to show you how much I love you until the day I die.
"Sometimes it’s easier to focus on what we don’t have, rather than what we do have. It’s important to take time out and remember all of the things to be thankful for that many of us take for granted."
- For family who raised you the best they could.
- For grandparents who gave lives to your parents.
- For friends being your companions in life.
- For soulmates who show you how much they mean to you.
- For teachers who have taught you and shared with you their knowledge and skills.
- For enemies who help you appreciate true friends.
- For pets that give you unconditional love.
- For mistakes that make you do better.
- For heartbreaks that help you become a mature person.
- For love that makes you feel what it means to truly be alive.
- For challenges that help you grow and become who you are.
- For music that lifts your spirits when you’re down.
- For tears that help you express your deepest emotions.
- For pain that makes you become a stronger person.
- For bed that makes your sleep comfortably every night.
- For sunshine that gives you brighter days.
- For hugs that makes you feel safe and secure.
- For technology that makes impossible things possible.
- For books that add wisdom into your life.
- For clothes that you don’t have to walk around naked.
- For blogs that connect you with other people.
- For nature’s beauty that inspires you in a daily basis.